Suggested Self-Help Books:

Disclaimer: The following books may be helpful to clients in dealing with various situations.  The links to books and other material are offered as a convenience, and the information and recommendations in these materials does not necessarily represent Valerie’s views or opinions. The recommendations contained in self-help resources should always be used cautiously, as they may not pertain exactly to your specific situation. These self-help resources are not a substitute for the services of a qualified mental health counsellor, therapist, psychiatrist or physician.


Subject Topics:

Family Dynamics
Life Cycle Transitions
Strengthening Your Marriage/Marriage Enrichment
Deciding Whether to Stay Together or Go
Dealing With Divorce
Divorce and Children
Single Parenting
Learning Disabilities
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
Autism and Aspergers Syndrome
Mens Issues
Womens Issues
Wife Abuse
Anger Management
Adults Abused as Children
Sexual Abuse


Sexual Addiction
Internet Addiction
Adult Children of Alcoholics
Eating Disorders
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
Bipolar Disorder
Personality Disorders
Death, Dying and Grief
Caring for Aging Parents
Self Esteem





Family Dynamics

·         Family First : Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family

·         The Family First Workbook : Specific Tools, Strategies, and Skills for Creating a Phenomenal Family

·         Families & How to Survive Them

Life Cycle Transitions

·         Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life

·         The Seasons of a Woman's Life

·         The Seasons of a Man's Life

Strengthening Your Marriage/Marriage Enrichment

·         The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

·         The Relationship Cure: a 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships

·         Why Marriages Succeed or Fail : And How You Can Make Yours Last

·         Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

·         Reclaim Your Relationship : A Workbook of Exercises and Techniques to Help You Reconnect with Your Partner

·         Relationship Rescue

·         The Relationship Rescue Workbook

·         Relationship Rescue : A Seven Step Strategy For Reconnecting With Your Partner (Audio CD)

·         Love Is A Verb

·         Do One Thing Different: Ten Simple Ways to Change Your Life

·         Divorce Busting : A Step-By-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again

·         The Divorce Remedy : The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage

·         Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

·         Getting the Love You Want Workbook : The New Couples' Study Guide

·         Getting the Love You Want : A Guide for Couples (Audio CD)


·         Getting Past the Affair : A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On -- Together or Apart

·         After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful

·         After the Affair (Audio Cassette)

·         How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not to

·         NOT "Just Friends" : Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

·         Private Lies

Deciding Whether to Stay Together or Go

·         Too Good To Leave Too Bad To Stay

·         Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong

Dealing With Divorce

·         You Can Get Over Divorce: the 7-Step Program to Speed Your Healing So That You Can Get on With the Rest of Your Life

·         Coming Apart

·         Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships

·         Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends

·         Rebuilding Workbook: When Your Relationship Ends

·         The Good Divorce

·         We're Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say about Their Parents' Divorce

·         Healthy Divorce : For Parents and Children--An Original, Clinically Proven Program for Working Through the Fourteen Stages of Separation, Divorce, and Remarriage

·         Reconcilable Differences: Marriages End. Families Don’t.

Divorce and Children

·         What About the Kids? : Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce

·         Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce the Sandcastles Way

·         I Don't Want to Talk about It

·         Dinosaur's Divorce

·         Two Homes

·         When Mom and Dad Divorce:: An Elf-Help Book for Kids

·         It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear: A Read-Together Book for Parents and Young Children During Divorce

·         Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids : Feeling at Home in One Home or Two


·         Stepfamily Realities: How to Overcome Difficulties and Have a Happy Family

·         How To Win As A Stepfamily

·         Stepfamilies: Myths and Realities

·         Mom's House, Dad's House

·         Keys to Successful Stepfathering

·         Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today's Blended Family

·         The Truth about Stepfamilies: Real American Stepfamilies Speak Out about What Works and What Doesn't When It Comes to Creating a Family Together

·         The Courage to Be a Stepmom: Finding Your Place Without Losing Yourself

Single Parenting

·         Chicken Soup for the Single Parent's Soul : Stories of Hope, Healing and Humor


·         How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

·         Siblings Without Rivalry

·         Try and Make Me!: A Revolutionary Program for Raising Your Defiant Child Without Losing Your Cool

·         Kids Are Worth It

·         Just Because It Isnt Wrong Doesnt Make It Right

·         Who's in Charge Anyway?

·         Parenting With Wit And Wisdom From Barabara Coloroso

·         Get Out of My Life, But First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall: A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager

·         The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Teens

·         WHY Do They Act That Way? : A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen

·         1-2-3 Magic : Effective Discipline for Children 2-12

·         1-2-3 Magic (DVD) : Managing Difficult Behavior in Children 2-12 (DVD)

Learning Disabilities

·         Facing Learning Disabilities : The Adult Years

·         It's So Much Work to Be Your Friend: Helping the Child with Learning Disabilities Find Social Success

·         The Misunderstood Child, Fourth Edition: Understanding and Coping With Your Child's Learning Disabilities

·         Overcoming Underachieving : An Action Guide to Helping Your Child Succeed in School

·         The Parent to Parent Handbook: Connecting Families of Children with Special Needs

·         Succeeding Against The Odds

·         Understanding Learning Disabilities: A Parent Guide and Workbook

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

·         Putting on the Brakes: Young People's Guide to Understanding Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

·         The Putting on the Brakes Activity Book for Young People with ADHD

·         The ADHD Book of Lists: A Practical Guide for Helping Children and Teens with Attention Deficit Disorders

·         Mastering Your Adult ADHD: A Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment Program Client Workbook

·         Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most Out of Life With Attention Deficit Disorder

·         Driven To Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood Through Adulthood

·         Dr. Larry Silver's Advice to Parents on Adhd: Second Edition

·         ADHD Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life

·         ADHD Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life (Audio CD)

·         You Mean I’m Not Lazy Stupid or Crazy?!

·         Understanding Women with AD/HD

·         Taking Charge of Adult ADHD

Autism and Aspergers Syndrome

·         The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome

·         Asperger Syndrome and Difficult Moments: Practical Solutions for Tantrums, Rage, and Meltdowns

·         Asperger's and Girls

·         Asperger's What Does It Mean to Me?: A Workbook Explaining Self Awareness and Life Lessons to the Child or Youth with High Functioning Autism or Aspergers

·         Asperger Syndrome and Adolescence: Helping Preteens and Teens Get Ready for the Real World

·         A Mind Apart : Understanding Children with Autism and Asperger Syndrome

·         The Social Skills Picture Book: Teaching Communication, Play and Emotion

·         The Social Skills Picture Book: For High School and Beyond


·         The Sex-Starved Marriage : Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple's Guide

·         Hot Monogamy

·         Passionate Marriage : Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive In Committed Relationships

·         Mating in Captivity

·         Mating in Captivity, Audio CD

·         Resurrecting Sex: Solving Sexual Problems and Revolutionizing Your Relationship

·         The 10-Second Kiss: How to Turn Your Relationship Into a Lifelong Romance -- in Just 24 Hours! a Magical Formula for Passion, Pleasure, and Playfulness

·         The 10-Second Kiss : How To Turn Your Relationship Into A Lifelong Romance (Audio Cassette)

·         Light Her Fire: How to Ignite Passion, Joy, and Excitement in the Women You Love

·         Light His Fire: How to Keep Your Man Passionately and Hopelessly in Love With You

·         The New Male Sexuality: the Truth About Men, Sex, and Pleasure

·         For Yourself: the Fulfillment of Female Sexuality

·         For Each Other

·         Sex and the Seasoned Woman: Pursuing the Passionate Life


·         My Child Is Gay: How Parents React When They Hear the News

·         Coming Out As Parents : You And Your Homosexual Child

·         When Husbands Come Out of the Closet

·         Beyond Acceptance: Parents Of Lesbians & Gays Talk About Their Experiences

·         The Other Side of the Closet : The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families

·         And Tango Makes Three

·         Asha's mums

·         Heather Has Two Mommies: 10th Anniversary Edition

·         Felicia's Favorite Story

Mens Issues

·         The Hazards of Being Male: Surviving the Myth of Masculine Privilege

·         The New Male: From Self-Destruction to Self-Care

·         Man Enough

·         Male Menopause

·         The Seasons of a Man's Life

·         Fire in the Belly: on Being a Man

·         Iron John: A Book about Men

·         Finding Our Fathers

·         Absent Fathers, Lost Sons: the Search for Masculine Identity

·         Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys

Womens Issues

·         Goddesses in Everywoman: Powerful Archetypes in Women's Lives

·         Goddesses in Older Women: Archetypes in Women Over Fifty

·         The Silent Passage : Revised and Updated Edition

·         The Seasons of a Woman's Life

·         Girls Will Be Girls: Raising Confident and Courageous Daughters


·         Could it be Perimenopause? : How Women 35-50 Can Overcome Forgetfullness, Mood Swings

·         The Silent Passage : Revised and Updated Edition

·         Pause Revised For The New Millenniium

Wife Abuse

·         Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why

·         The Emotionally Abusive Relationship : How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing

·         The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself

·         When Dad Hurts Mom

·         Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

·         The Gift of Fear

Anger Management

·         The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

·         The Anger Control Workbook

·         When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within

·         Letting Go of Anger: The Eleven Most Common Anger Styles & What to Do about Them

·         Stop the Anger Now: A Workbook for the Prevention, Containment, and Resolution of Anger

·         The Anger Workbook

Adults Abused as Children

·         Outgrowing the Pain: a Book for and About Adults Abused As Children

·         Outgrowing the Pain Together

·         Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

·         Adult Children of Abusive Parents

Sexual Abuse

For Adults

·         The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, Featuring "Honoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash"

·         The Courage to Heal Workbook: For Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

·         Adults Molested As Children: A Survivors Manual for Women and Men

·         I Never Told Anyone: Writings by Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

·         The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse (Revised Edition)

·         Victims No Longer (Second Edition): The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse

·         Abused Boys: the Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse

·         Wounded Boys Heroic Men: A Man's Guide to Recovering from Child Abuse

·         Men Surviving Incest: A Male Survivor Shares the Process of Recovery

·         The PTSD Workbook: Simple, Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms

·         Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook

·         The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse (Revised Edition)

For Children

·         How Long Does It Hurt : A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends, and Their Families

·         Please Tell!: A Child's Story About Sexual Abuse

·         It Happened to Me: A Teen's Guide to Overcoming Sexual Abuse

·         Something Happened and I'm Scared to Tell: A Book for Young Victims of Abuse

For Parents

·         When Your Child Has Been Molested: A Parents Guide to Healing and Recovery

For Partners

·         Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Is a Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse

·         Ghosts in the Bedroom: A Guide for the Partners of Incest Survivors

·         What About Me?: A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse

Abuse Proofing

·         A Very Touching Book...for Little People and for Big People

·         Your Body Belongs to You

·         It's My Body: A Book to Teach Young Children How to Resist Uncomfortable Touch

·         The Berenstain Bears Learn About Strangers

·         My Body Is Private

·         Better Safe Than Sorry

·         When Something Feels Wrong: A Survival Guide about Abuse for Young People

·         No Is Not Enough: Helping Teenagers Avoid Sexual Assault

·         The Gift of Fear

Sexual Addiction

·         Out of the Shadows : Understanding Sexual Addiction

·         Don't Call It Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction

·         Contrary to Love : Helping the Sexual Addict

·         Hope and Recovery : A Twelve Step Guide for Healing from Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Internet Addiction

·         In the Shadows of the Net : Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior


·         Controlling Your Drinking: Tools to Make Moderation Work for You

·         Over the Influence: The Harm Reduction Guide for Managing Drugs and Alcohol

·         The Alcoholic Family in Recovery : A Developmental Model

·         Smashed

·         Beyond the Influence: Understanding and Defeating Alcoholism

·         Sober for Good: New Solutions for Drinking Problems -- Advice from Those Who Have Succeeded

·         Sex, Drugs, Gambling & Chocolate: A Workbook for Overcoming Addictions

Adult Children of Alcoholics

·         Adult Children of Alcoholics: Expanded Edition

·         The Complete ACOA Sourcebook: Adult Children of Alcoholics at Home, at Work and in Love

·         Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

·         It Will Never Happen to Me: Growing Up with Addiction as Youngsters, Adolescents, Adults

·         Perfect Daughters (Revised Edition): Adult Daughters of Alcoholics

·         Children of Alcoholism: A Survivor's Manual

·         Another Chance: Hope and Health for the Alcoholic Family

·         Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families

·         Recovery: A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics

Eating Disorders

·         The Hunger Within: An Twelve Week Guided Journey from Compulsive Eating to Recovery

·         The Overcoming Bulimia Workbook: Your Comprehensive, Step-By-Step Guide to Recovery

·         Overcoming Binge Eating

·         When Your Child Has an Eating Disorder : A Step-by-Step Workbook for Parents and Other Caregivers

·         The Eating Disorder Sourcebook

·         Help Your Teenager Beat an Eating Disorder

·         Eating with Your Anorexic

·         Anorexia and Bulimia in the Family : One Parent's Practical Guide to Recovery


·         The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook

·         Beyond Anxiety and Phobia: A Step-By-Step Guide to Lifetime Recovery

·         Coping with Anxiety: 10 Simple Ways to Relieve Anxiety, Fear & Worry

·         The Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven Techniques for Overcoming Your Fears

·         10 Simple Solutions to Shyness: How to Overcome Shyness, Social Anxiety, and Fear of Public Speaking

·         Don't Panic Revised Edition: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks

·         From Panic to Power

·         Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

·         Calming Your Anxious Mind: How Mindfulness and Compassion Can Free You from Anxiety, Fear, and Panic

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

·         Imp Of The Mind

·         Stop Obsessing!: How to Overcome Your Obsessions and Compulsions

·         The Ocd Workbook: Your Guide to Breaking Free from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

·         Overcoming Obsessive & Compulsive Disorder – Client Manual: Overcoming Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder Client Protocol for the Treatment of Ocd

·         Talking Back to OCD : The Program That Helps Kids and Teens Say "No Way" -- and Parents Say "Way to Go"

·         Loving Someone with OCD: Help for You & Your Family


·         Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy

·         Feeling Good Handbook

·         Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think

·         The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness

·         Breaking the Patterns of Depression

·         Hand-Me-Down Blues

·         The Depression Workbook: A Guide for Living with Depression and Manic Depression

·         How You Can Survive When They're Depressed: Living and Coping With Depression Fallout

·         The Family Intervention Guide to Mental Illness: Recognizing Symptoms and Getting Treatment

·         Depression Fallout: The Impact of Depression on Couples and What You Can Do to Preserve the Bond

·         Recovering from Depression: A Workbook for Teens

Bipolar Disorder

·         The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide : What You and Your Family Need to Know

·         The Family Intervention Guide to Mental Illness: Recognizing Symptoms and Getting Treatment

·         Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder: Understanding & Helping Your Partner

·         Surviving Manic Depression: A Manual of Bipolar Disorder for Patients, Families, and Providers

·         Brilliant Madness: Living With Manic Depressive Illness

·         An Unquiet Mind: a Memoir of Moods and Madness

·         The Bipolar Child: the Definitive and Reassuring Guide to Childhood's Most Misunderstood Disorder -- Third Edition

·         The Bipolar Teen : What You Can Do to Help Your Child and Your Family

·         Bipolar Kids: Helping Your Child Find Calm in the Mood Storm


·         Surviving Schizophrenia: A Manual for Families, Patients, and Providers

·         The Complete Family Guide to Schizophrenia : Helping Your Loved One Get the Most Out of Life

·         The Family Intervention Guide to Mental Illness: Recognizing Symptoms and Getting Treatment

Personality Disorders

·         Stop Walking on Eggshells

·         The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook: Practical Strategies for Living with Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder

·         Sometimes I Act Crazy : Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

·         I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

·         New Hope for People With Borderline Personality Disorder: Your Friendly, Authoritative Guide to the Latest in Traditional and Complementary Solutions

·         Lost in the Mirror, 2nd Edition : An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder

·         Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem

·         Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship

·         Why Is It Always About You? : The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism

·         Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents

·         The Narcissistic Family : Diagnosis and Treatment

·         Without Conscience : The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us

·         Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths Go to Work

·         Bad Boys, Bad Men: Confronting Antisocial Personality Disorder


·         No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One

·         Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One

·         But I Didn't Say Goodbye: For Parents and Professionals Helping Child Suicide Survivors

·         Someone I Love Died by Suicide: A Story for Child Survivors and Those Who Care for Them

Death, Dying and Grief

·         How to Survive the Loss of a Love

·         Grief Recovery Handbook, the (Revised: A Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Devastating Losses

·         Good Grief: A Constructive Approach to the Problem of Loss

·         I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Death of a Loved One

·         Healing After Loss:: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief

·         Sad Isn't Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing with Loss

·         Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies

·         I Miss You: A First Look at Death

·         The Fall of Freddie the Leaf : A Story of Life For All Ages

·         Gentle Willow: A Story for Children about Dying

·         Bereaved Children and Teens : A Support Guide for Parents and Professionals


·         Goddesses in Older Women: Archetypes in Women Over Fifty

·         Healthy Aging: a Lifelong Guide to Your Physical and Spiritual Well-Being

Caring for Aging Parents

·         How to Care for Aging Parents

·         Caring For Yourself While Caring For Your Aging Parents : How to Help, How to Survive


·         Who Moved My Cheese

·         The Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook

·         Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness

·         Guided Mindfulness Meditation (Audio CD)

Self Esteem

·         The Self-Esteem Workbook

·         Ten Days to Self-Esteem


·         Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and Equality in Your Life and Relationships

·         The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas & Stand Up for Yourself at Work & in Relationships

·         When I Say No, I Feel Guilty


·         The Fibromyalgia Advocate: Getting the Support You Need to Cope with Fibromyalgia and Myofascial Pain Syndrome

·         Fibromyalgia and Chronic Myofascial Pain: A Survival Manual


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